It is funny how the daily events of life can conjure up memories from when you were diagnosed with breast cancer. Oh, diagnosed with breast cancer twice in my case. Our community is holding a recycling event this weekend. While clearing out various files I came across some paperwork I saved from my first diagnosis is 2002, my second diagnosis in 2014, and also my DIEP flap breast reconstruction also in 2014. It was like recycling thoughts from my breast cancer diagnosis.
The Diagnosis Process Does Not Change Much
What was interesting to me was an email I printed from a best friend and survivor herself. She was diagnosed a couple of years before I was. To read more about our connection and understand the meaning behind out song, “I Hope You Dance” you can read this blog. She had great pearls of wisdom to share with me. I speak to women each week about their diagnosis, treatment plans, recovery, side effects, and how this might affect their daily life. The contents of the email from my friend dated January 15, 2002, contained some of the same discussion I have with women today.
- Review the options.
- Statistically what does each modality of treatment add to increase your percentage survival rate.
- Have them explain terminology.
- Staging system – understanding the staging system will help you decide on your course of action.
- Ask about coordinating care with your team at your breast cancer facility or with the doctors you will be working with.
What brought me to my knees and reaching for a tissue were the words she shared in the email. I would like to pass them on to each of you. I just spent a week with my friend, by the way, on a bit of an adventure we both took together. We had not seen each other in twenty years. When we greeted each other at the airport it was as if no time had passed. We picked right up where we left off. You must read her advice and take it to heart. I did. It worked! Here is what she wrote.
Recycled Thoughts That Ring True for Breast Cancer Patients Today
Terri – get the mechanics of your life in order – suggestions include:
- Get help with the house, even if it is only three hours a week to do the tougher jobs. I really miss not having the help now because my energy level is still not back.
- Join a support group. You receive so much. (I guess I listened and started my own. Thank you Journey Strong!!!)
- I am not sure if you are involved at church, etc. But do something like some kind of job or purpose that gets you up, dressed, and with people. You are really good at networking with people!! In other words, get on with your life!! (Again, I listened. Opening DiepCFoundation is my purpose!)
- Get your rest! Read some really good books. I made tons of beaded bracelets, not a lot of skill, but it was good therapy.
- Get your exercise. Drink your water, Eat health foods, esp. chocolate daily!
- You will see many coincidences or way in which God is taking care of you and your family. Coincidences is not the right word…but you will know as they happen.
- You are tough, positive, strong, smart, and a true friend. Know that I am here for you – all the time!
I love you! You will handle this with style and grace!
We are praying for you.
Keep me informed.
Thoughts from My Heart
Today, cleaning out was a cathartic event for me. It made me realize how important connections are. Breast cancer is a frightening diagnosis. It does not have to be handled alone. I kept this email from my friend, and it will stay nearby in my desk drawer as a reminder of how important these connections are. I am glad I have folks like her to remind me we are here to serve each other. For those we have lost along the way, they served us too and we remember their valor and the value they added to our lives. Let us not forget to listen, support, and love. Recycling thoughts of my breast cancer diagnosis was not such a bad thing today.
